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Lady Michelle Austin

What are Triggers

A trigger is something that sets off a memory tape or flashback transporting the person back to the event of her/his original trauma.
Triggers are very personal; different things trigger different people. The survivor may begin to avoid situations and stimuli that she/he thinks triggered the flashback. She/he will react to this flashback, trigger with an emotional intensity similar to that at the time of the trauma. A person’s triggers are activated through one or more of the five senses: sight, sound, touch, smell, and taste.
The senses identified as being the most common to trigger someone are sight and sound, followed by touch and smell, and taste close behind. A combination of the senses is identified as well, especially in situations that strongly resemble the original trauma. Although triggers are varied and diverse, there are often common themes.
Often someone who resembles the abuser or who has similar traits or objects (ie. clothing, hair color, distinctive walk).
Any situation where someone else is being abused (ie. anything from a raised eyebrow and verbal comment to actual physical abuse).
The object that was used to abuse
The objects that are associated with or were common in the household where the abuse took place (ie. alcohol, piece of furniture, time of year).
Any place or situation where the abuse took place (ie. specific locations in a house, holidays, family events, social settings).
Anything that sounds like anger (ie. raised voices, arguments, bangs and thumps, something breaking).
Anything that sounds like pain or fear (ie. crying, whispering, screaming).
Anything that might have been in the place or situation prior to, during, or after the abuse or reminds her/him of the abuse (ie. sirens, foghorns, music, cricket, chirping, car door closing).
Anything that resembles sounds that the abuser made (ie. whistling, footsteps, pop of can opening, tone of voice).
Words of abuse (ie. cursing, labels, put-downs, specific words used).
Anything that resembles the smell of the abuser (ie. tobacco, alcohol, drugs, aftershave, perfume).
Any smells that resemble the place or situation where the abuse occurred (ie. food cooking, wood, odors, alcohol).
Anything that resembles the abuse or things that occurred prior to or after the abuse (ie. certain physical touch, someone standing too close, petting an animal, the way someone approaches you).
Anything that is related to the abuse, prior to the abuse or after the abuse (ie. certain foods, alcohol, tobacco)
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Lady Michelle Jones-Austin is a domestic violence advocate, author, international speaker & visionary.  She is the compassionate and empathetic founder and CEO of Heal & Rebuild – Unbreakable Spirit, Inc.  She also gave birth to the Women’s Courageous Conversations Saturday group and is the author of her life story, “Pieces of Me.”
She is the silent voice for victims and survivors who are ultimately suffering in silence out of fear those who have lost their voices to death at the hands of their abusers.
She offers a listening ear for the women and children at risk and is a true advocate who has not been afraid to take on the many challenges it takes to get them to safety.  Michelle offers a listening ear for the women/children at risk and has spent numerous hours on the phone with individuals in crisis until help arrived.
Lady Michelle continues to work with social groups and has spoken in international conferences such as Dubai and is on a mission to stop domestic violence one family at a time.

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